Reverse psychology and dating
Here is what I learnt; First what is reverse psychology anyway?
Well, from what I understood, “It’s the act of behaving/acting/doing/saying the opposite of what you mean or want so as to make the other person act in the way you want them to, which is normally the opposite response to yours”. Rather than battling for your own side, simply state that you agree with the other person.
Here it is, I think that when the ‘Dumper’ walks out, he/she had already conditioned their mind that the ‘Dumped One’ will retaliate and fight to fix things as this is the natural tendancy of humans we tend to try to fix things when we are not ready to let it go. That’s the interesting part, the Dumper is , in his/her mind it was not meant to happen like that, you were meant to fight and fix and they were meant to DEFEND.
And since the ‘Dumper’ is the one doing the dumping, he/she knows you were not prepared for it; so subconsciously the ‘Dumper’ builds barriers to protect their decision from your retaliation, they have actually put the fact that you will fight to fix the relationship into their plan of action and they know what exactly to do or say to defend their decision. They had programmed their mind so well that this was the way it was to happen that when it did not happen like that, the DUMPER actually now switches to ‘fix’ mode because his/her mind tells her ‘something is not right, this is not how it was meant to go’ and without knowing what happened …they start acting opposite of your response in an attempt to … Hmmm my explanation is a bit shaky with loopholes…wouldn’t mind hearing your views and comments on this subject…
Being the dumped one of course means that if given a choice, you would not leave that relationship, in short; when you are dumped, for the first few hours, days, weeks or even months you will generally ask yourself this famous question “How do I get my Ex-girlfriend or Ex Boyfriend Back?
” Since this question is so common seeing that people are dumped every hour, when you search the answer on the internet; you will get all kinds of answers and methods; of course some are TOTALLY wrong and others are right.
Before you attempt to apply this technique I strongly suggest that you should find out more about it since if used incorrectly and the other person actually finds out about your intention (which is always the case when reverse psychology is undertaken without detailed and well thought out step by step plan) you will definitely worsen your situation. Well because backfired reverse psychology is easily translated as ‘MANIPULATION’ attempt by your Ex.These situations that am talking about, of course had to be ones where I was in a relationship and my partner out of the blues decides ‘Hawi it’s over’; what is universally known as being DUMPED…Everyone (except for the lucky few…very few) have gone through a breakup where they were the ‘Dumped One’.Found some useful sites with great advice especially this particular one that has really helped me out. Anyway so where was I, yes, I did find some useful advice from all sorts of sites and I realized that the one method that almost all of them advocated staunchly for was “Use of Reverse Psychology to get Ex your back”.Kitanda by Anthony Malibu ‘howtogetbackanexboyfriend’ (sorry guys this is a site mostly for the ladies as it is written from a male perspective, buuuuut guys am a girl, you could always ask what ‘Hawi Thinks’ is the best way to get back an Ex girlfriend from a female point of view… And of course since am a mind psychology fanatic, you can guess that I took an interest into finding out more into what it was all about.