How far is too far in christian dating
So before marriage, we know that sex itself definitely fits in the category of “too far.” So when unmarried Christ-followers ask me “How far is too far?
” what they generally mean is “How close to sex can we get without sinning?
” First of all, let me say that I did not always do the right thing in this area myself, before I got married. You need clear physical boundaries which you will not cross until you are married.
I’m happy to say that my wife and I kept our relationship pure until our wedding night, but it wasn’t always easy! Although there is some flexibility with some of them, for the most part these should be non-negotiable.
I should not have to spell out what you should and shouldn’t do.
Suffice to say that anything beyond kissing above the neck should be a non-negotiable.
Having said all that – staying pure or celibate or avoiding fooling about without full sex is no easy task in today’s society where everyone and everything tells us to do the opposite – and that to stay celibate is narrow minded and daft and silly.
It suggests that there is an answer (there is a “too far”), but it is impossible to really say what the answer is.
Now the answer to this is very simple – but because of the world we live in it’s become very complex.
So this is going to take a bit of time to explain so bear with me.
We think that petting without having full sex will cause no harm to ourselves and others.
What I mean is, people like to define sex as only the act of intercourse.