Dating someone who has just ended his marriage
It said “People very high on the narcissist scale are the only people that, with time, appear healthier and healthier in a relationship, while the victim appears sicker and sicker…
and, to the untrained eye, a lot of times people don’t realize what’s going on and because of that, the victim ends up being emotionally abused for years and years and then they receive secondary abuse by professionals who don’t understand what’s going on and who think that the problem lies with this person because their symptoms look so clear.”OMG, I felt that she was speaking to me.
You might be able to come to an agreement about when you’ll reevaluate the marriage question and how you’ll address insecurities and relationship logistics in the meantime.
While you might feel hurt if your partner doesn’t want to marry you, it’s important to consider that marriage might mean something completely different to your partner.
When I began a relationship with this man 17 years ago I was in my mid 20’s.It is possible, however, to have a committed and loving relationship without marriage, and some people who are uncomfortable with marriage ultimately change their minds.A disagreement about marriage doesn’t have to end your relationship, particularly if you both are committed to the relationship.The benefits of marriage include automatic paternal legitimation for children, significant tax benefits, and shared insurance.Pointing these out to your partner could help, but addressing his or her concerns is equally important.