Dating and marriage after divorce
Whenever Sharon meets someone new, she hopes that “this is the one,” and Branden does, too.Sadly, when Sharon’s relationships don’t work out, not only is her heart broken, but so is her son’s.She suggested that he develop relationships with other Christian men for support, rather than seek out women for emotional comfort. And, until he heals, he won’t be able to relax and commit his entire heart to his new partner the way God intends.To begin healing, you’ll want to seek counsel from committed Christians who are willing to walk through the grief process with you.And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you’ve been and where God wants you to go.Healing is also necessary to follow God’s command to” do unto others what you would have them do unto you,” (Matthew ).
Unfortunately, Branden’s father abandoned him, so it’s understandable that he longs for a relationship with a father figure.
When Becky asked him how long he’d been divorced, he admitted that it wasn’t final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they’d only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he’s neither emotionally nor legally available.
However, Scripture is clear that it doesn’t matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).
Don’t wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date’s home overnight.