Dating an insecure man
She’s making all the decisions in an effort to limit your options.We all want to feel needed by our partners, but we also want some degree of independence. When she’s in a relationship, there is no “you” or “I,” only “we” and “us.” Again, we all cut down on time with our buddies when we’re in a relationship, but hers have completely vanished to the point where you’re wondering if they ever even existed in the first place. She likes all the movies you like, reads all the same books and is content to watch you play video games for four hours.Insecurity causes people to define themselves by their failures, and she’s going to try to drag you down that road, too.Money and possessions are quantitative things that insecure people can point to as proof that they’re doing well in life. She’ll make you feel like you just left your baby in the grocery store.Relationships are all about give and take and establishing boundaries.Just like women, dudes might rely on a little emotional pick-me-up from their partners.But if a guy is regularly insecure, it can take a toll on both you and your relationship.
If you’ve crossed some line with her, even inadvertently and even if it’s no big deal in your opinion, you are in for it, my friend. It’s like no one is worthy of any kind of success except for her. It will ruin her night and she’ll do her best to make sure it ruins your night and the night of anyone else who is unfortunate enough to be nearby.
Does she laugh when she sees an old person fall down? You make an innocuous comment about how you’re glad the weather’s cooling down and she accuses you of calling her fat.
Does she celebrate when someone she doesn’t like gets fired or dumped? You tell her how much you got done today and she insists she did more.
They don’t believe it themselves, but they believe they can trick others into believing it.
Every guy feels a little unsure of himself sometimes (unless he’s a raging egomaniac, that is).