Dating a girl not divorced yet
They are flexible with some of the criteria/qualities, such as, “I really want him to be over 6 feet, but if he isn’t I might be OK with it,” but other things are 100% musts. One of these musts/deal breakers for a lot of people is, “He/she MUST be officially divorced.” Maybe they fear that the person hasn’t grieved the divorce, or hasn’t been alone long enough, or maybe they think there’s still a chance he/she might get back together with the ex.Or, maybe they think think he’s just covering up his pain with a Band-aid, the Band-aid being a new girlfriend.In any case, they have their reasons for not wanting to date a guy who isn’t officially divorced. A couple doesn’t just decide one day that they want to get separated.Well, I have my reasons too, when I say that I think people who won’t date someone who isn’t officially divorced could truly be missing out. In most cases, they have been unhappy for months, years, even decades.Dating a guy who’s not divorced yet is risky, in some people’s opinions.I say dating a guy who isn’t emotionally ready to date—divorce decree in hand or not, is risky.
There are many men and women who have a rule when it comes to dating someone who is not divorced yet: they won’t do it.
So, really, they could be divorced (emotionally) but the process just takes awhile. ” “Does he have no intention of getting divorced and is he just telling people he’s separated?
My criteria for dating after divorce was never “is he officially divorced yet? ” “Is he considering divorce and just playing the field?
And, if they swipe left because the guy isn’t officially divorced, they could be missing out on something really great. Check out, “Dating The Hot And Cold Guy” Divorce is a journey. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online.
Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor.