Dating a bisexual man
A tweet from my pal Nicole Kristal over at #Still Bisexual, told me that Upon first sight, I was shocked and saddened by this information. It goes along with that strange belief that somehow it's more acceptable for women to be sexually fluid than men.
However, after composing the perfect response to send to Nicole, I thought more about it and realized something pretty terrible -- I wasn't surprised. Seething, and with my protective instincts raised for my bisexual brethren, I went back to work and asked my best work friend, (a straight woman) if she would date a bisexual man.
A while back, I was casually scrolling through Twitter on my company-mandated 10-minute break at my second job.
While I was sitting there, minding my own business, just trying to see what was new with Kerry Washington, I came across some disturbing statistics.
That’s why he pried a little as to why she wouldn't be open to dating bi men.Hiding the truth keeps us separate from the ones who are waiting to love us.It keeps us in the fear that worries about things that haven’t happened. There are actually women who do “seek” out bisexual men…there are more women who are “available” and “willing” to date an intriguingly honest and interesting man who happens to be bisexual.Fun tidbit: This is why when bisexuals are asked who is faced with more challenges and stigma, bisexual men or bisexual women, a lot of us will say bisexual men.(Examples: 1, 2) Explanation two: The false and tired belief that being with someone who is bi/pansexual/omnisexual means that they will cheat on you or that you have more competition. D., director of the Sex & Gender Lab at Cornell University was quoted in the article as saying that the report of women not wanting to have sex with a man who'd been with other men suggested "that these women hold on to the view that while women occupy a wide spectrum of sexuality, men are either gay or straight." So women are allowed to be bisexual, or at least more sexually fluid, but men are not? To any woman who has had/does have feelings for a man who has had sex with other men: Turning down someone because of perfectly valid sexual preferences and/or behaviors is ridiculous.